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The “Other Half” of a Stay-at-Home Mom: The Working Dad

September 28, 2011 by Jaimi Erickson 10 Comments

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An essential part of being a stay-at-home mom-the WORKING dad! We have to give him credit where credit is due for all he does for our family. Via The Stay-at-Home-Mom Survival Guide.

I would be terribly forgetful if I did not mention one phenomenal half of the whole picture on being a stay-at-home mom: the working husband!  How in the world could we do what we do without their sacrifice? I sometimes envy my husband leaving for work every day, although not the hour that he wakes up, or the drive from here to there and back. He has so much on his shoulders. I try to put myself in his shoes and really think about what that role entails.

One income…dun, dun, dun!

Being the husband of a stay-at-home mom

Every day my husband goes to work.  Our financial stability falls on his shoulders, although we try to balance it as I am the one who manages the money after it gets into our hands. We work as a team.

If I were the one our financial livelihoods fell on, I would be a very stressed out person. Somehow, my husband balances that. He has said he prefers being the one to work versus staying home. I respect his sacrifice having to be the one to wake up every day and leave us to go do his job.  He has to be away from our children the majority of the day while I get to see them all day.

I tend to get wrapped up in my own frustration of tantrums, whining, spit up, diapers, meals, etc. and lay it all on him when he gets home venting about my day as the stay-at-home mom. In fairness, I ask him how his day was as well so that we each get our time to share.
He has stress dealing with work just as I do. It would not be different if I were working, the stress would just have a different starting point, and there would probably be more of it!

Remember that you may be getting pooped on literally, but he is also getting pooped on, figuratively. And, without his income your job as a stay-at-home mom would not be possible…well, unless you are the Rockefellers or the Kennedys.

Celebrate his work for the family outside of the home. Without husbands willing to take on that burden, there would be no stay-at-home moms.

 

Raising a family is a team sport!

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Comments

  1. Tarana Khan says

    June 16, 2015 at 7:33 am

    I'm glad you've written this! I do try to keep in mind that it can't be easy taking a long commute and sitting at a desk all day.

    Reply
    • Jaimi says

      June 16, 2015 at 8:06 pm

      So true, Tarana! I want to think some days that I am the one with the toughest job, but really we share in the challenges of parenting and marriage with our husbands. It's a balancing act, but those wonderful husbands work so hard too!

      Reply
  2. Anonymous says

    May 9, 2015 at 5:48 pm

    Wow, my Mother n law needs to see this. I'm always hearing about how impossibly difficult it is to stay at home with kids. But when I try to say work was tough today (100+ hours a week 6-7 days a week) my mother n law says very condescendingly that at least I get to go to work and not stay home. It's nice to see some recognition ladies thank you so much!!!

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    • Jaimi says

      May 13, 2015 at 6:17 pm

      You bet! I think many of us take our husbands for granted in the thick of challenging days with kids. We know you guys do a lot even if we don't always let you think that. 🙂 I wish you all the best!

      Reply
  3. Saphireeyesmedina says

    February 4, 2015 at 3:12 am

    I love this so much! So often the working husband gets forgotten, when really wear would we stay at home moms be with out him??

    Reply
    • Jaimi says

      February 6, 2015 at 3:22 am

      So true! Where would we be without him? His role is essential to our role. Wouldn't have it any other way!

      Reply
  4. Anonymous says

    February 3, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    Hello Jaimi,
    Thank you for the gentle reminder that our dear husbands deserve a sweet smile and gentle words when they arrive home each evening. I (we) are most truly blessed.

    Reply
    • Jaimi says

      February 6, 2015 at 3:21 am

      We really are blessed to be able to take care of our families each day-thanks in part to our wonderful husbands!

      Reply

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