How do you get to thriving in motherhood? First surviving, then thriving with a gameplan.

{Post by Lisa}

It seemed like every time I moved forward there was a brick wall to get past. I felt suspicious that something was going on.

I wondered if I had made the wrong decision. I tried to settle in, pray hard, and do my part. My efforts were ignored or not good enough.

Making a change didn’t seem like the right thing to do. Surely, I will be seen for who I am and appreciated.

And I never was.

I was set up to fail.

I was not wanted or needed anymore.

I was asked to leave.

I faced rejection and loss all at once.

I didn’t expect this to happen. A matter a fact it didn’t fit in with my plan or make any sense.

Surviving Then Thriving in Motherhood

Maybe you have experienced this or you are going through something like this right now. Maybe a divorce. Maybe let go from a job. Maybe rejected from a group or family member.

When something like this happens it feels so personal doesn’t it?

One might blame themselves. One might question their abilities. One might feel like a failure. I understand if you feel these things. I’ve been there many times.

Dear One, beating ourselves up doesn’t do any good. We must move on and expect something better. Easier said than done. I know.

The thing is, God sees you and He knows you. He has a plan for your life. Satan would like to see us drown in lies and give up. When knocked down we must let God pick us up and carry on.

I remind myself who my Creator is when something happens in my life that I didn’t expect. I put my hope and trust in Him. Even though change can be hard and scary, I choose to depend on Him to carry me through and He always has.

Why are you in despair, O my soul? Why have you become restless and disquieted within me? Hope in God and wait expectantly for Him, for I shall yet praise Him, The help of my countenance and my God. Psalm 42:11 AMP

I have observed in myself and others an emotional cycle that we go through when something happens to us that we didn’t expect.

Survival mode. We make sure our security is in tack. We start to make a safety plan for those we are responsible for. There are even moments of panic, anxiety, and fear.

Anger and shock play back and forth. We want answers. We want to point fingers.

Reality hits home that some things in our present life will need to change. Some good changes and not so good. We re-think what is really important to us and what we can do without.

How does God want us to respond?

This emotional roller coaster is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s a natural process that God intended for us to go through and He wants us to hold on to Him tightly.

How do we do that?

-We apply His word to our life.
-We wait patiently for Him to lead us.
-We communicate with Him
-We praise Him for what He has done and what He is going to do.
-We live life with others who will encourage us and we can encourage them.

If you can relate please know that you are not alone. God will meet you right where you are. Your emotions may be pretty messy and that is o.k. Let the tears flow into a river of hope. Follow God’s lead and know that God works all things out for the good.

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May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing [through the experience of your faith] that by the power of the Holy Spirit you will abound in hope and overflow with confidence in His promises. Romans 15:13 AMP

How do you get to thriving in motherhood? First surviving, then thriving with a gameplan.

Wanted: Mom Friends! Lisa Brown from COmmunity Moms blog shares how she felt when she became a new mom and did not have a support system in place. This is great advice for moms whether new or experienced!Lisa is an aspiring writer with a mother’s passion for Homeschool Education. She has an 8 yr. old son, a 7 yr. old daughter, and has been married to her husband for 10+ yrs. Prior to marriage, she worked over 20 yrs. enriching the lives of hundreds of children and families. Lisa has a Bachelors in Social Work and Early Childhood Education. You can read more of Lisa’s posts on her blog – The Family Roadmap.