“Mom, you’re silly. Moms don’t work.”
The list of questions I was asking myself grew long, and I was reeling by the time we got home. Even though I had chosen to stay at home with her, I worked diligently to teach her that women can do anything. They can accomplish anything they put their minds to. I prided myself on discussing how women are strong and they do so much.
Life has a funny way of messing with your plans.
But here’s a little secret: I didn’t believe myself for the longest time.
It wasn’t until we were given orders to a town where I had previously worked that I began working again. This is when I realized how incredibly tough it is being a stay-at-home mom. I always knew in the back of my head that being a mom was indeed tough, but I usually looked at my friends and would marvel at the amazing jobs they did while their husbands were deployed.
When I began working I was thrown into an arena where I could have adult conversations with (gasp) real adults! No one threw tantrums or fought over toys. I could work an entire shift without having to talk, discipline or explain something one hundred times. I could go to work and concentrate solely on my job. It was then that I realized how extremely difficult and simply amazing being a stay-at-home mother is.
I rarely realized how much my daughter was seeing of the “work” I was doing at home. Although, initially, I was flabbergasted at the thought of her not realizing that women worked outside the home, a huge part of my heart was proud that she saw all the work I did everyday.
Did you work before staying at home or do you work part-time or full-time now? How did that affect your perspective of the work choices moms make?
I’d love to hear your story! Share in the comments below.
Heather lives in Florida with her husband, two girls and two pups. She is a lover of most things in life, too many to name here without scaring you, but a few include working out, learning new recipes, Pinterest, organizing (yes, it’s true!), home decor and learning to lead a more minimal and purposeful life.
At the end of 2014, she was feeling unhappy, burnt out and discouraged but couldn’t pinpoint exactly what was making her feel that way. She started Just Becoming Me as a venture to better understand herself and what will lead her towards a more fulfilling life. Her motto is: “We only have one life, and I want to learn to live mine in a way that gets me excited to jump out of bed.”
Fun fact: Heather is a friend of mine in real life-not just in blog land. I lived near her when her husband was deployed for the first time and know as a fellow military spouse all the “work” Heather had to take on as a military wife and stay-at-home mom. She and I, along with our oldest children, had frequent playdates and shared a lot about being a mom and the different choices moms make to care for their children and themselves.
I am thrilled that Heather was willing to share here and she will be sharing more starting this Fall! Her perspective is one that many of you can relate to as being a stay-at-home mom can often feel like it was thrown at you and not really your choice. I think Heather has great insights and advice about balancing that feeling of wanting to balance work and home, and I am eager for her to share more as the months go on.
Thank you so much, Heather for being candid and so insightful about the work moms do each day!
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Enjoy your time at home!