celebrated our anniversary earlier this month. We’re excited that we have made
it this far with every intention to make it until the day we take our breaths in heaven.
that it’s a try-it-and-see kind of thing. Or, that they will only stay married
as long as life is easy.
marriage when it was hard, when we weren’t sure if there
was a solution to our problems, when we had tried everything we could think of,
and we had each thought of ‘getting out’.
However, we have received so much
healing from God over the years, and specifically over the last year, that
we know if the Lord can heal our marriage, then He can heal any marriage!
are many things that I could talk about and I still wouldn’t cover them all. God is still teaching me. What I can offer are just a few keys
that I have discovered with much help from some god-loving,
marriage-championing friends whom we met through our church.
marriage ministry in our church, we have seen commitment displayed in front of us by the leadership team and other table leaders of
are each committed to God and His plan for their marriage.
couple and I guarantee you that they have been through at least one major issue
in their marriage-Deaths, affairs, financial troubles, divorces, sexual abuse,
strained relationships with in-laws, and so much more.
life gets tough.
whatever it takes, can only really come from your commitment to Christ and His
plan for your life. He doesn’t give up on us, and we should not be too quick to
give up on our marriages. He can redeem all the baggage, junk, hurts, abuse, and
hardships. Bring it to Him, commit to your marriage, and watch how God will
must be brave and vulnerable. Opening up to others about our deepest feelings,
thoughts, hopes, and dreams can be difficult, but it is necessary if we want a
close and flourishing relationship with our husbands. Be courageous! Begin to
talk to your husband about your future, your hopes and dreams, the hard things.
admit to having those fears myself, and they are real. But, give it a try anyway.
surprised at the changes that take place in your husband after he begins to see
a real change in you. I have a long way to go, many improvements that still
need to be made in my life. I’m looking to God to do that work in me. When my husband saw real change in me last fall, he began to change as well.
It has been beautiful to watch him begin to step up to lead in areas where I’ve
wanted him to for years. I simply had to get out of the way, to let go of
the bitterness. Be brave, have the courage to change first. Your spouse may very
finding success in marriage. A married couple cannot remain an island unto
themselves and expect to flourish. Even when things are going great we all
sometimes need help managing our lives. When we are struggling, it becomes
almost impossible to continue successfully if we have no one to hold up our
our church was a huge turning point for us. God has done some immense work in
my heart. He has allowed me to completely let go of the bitterness and anger.
My husband and I are able to now work on the other areas that we neglected
during those many years of struggle. It is in large part due to having a group
of mentors through our ministry team. We have men and women who have been
transparent about their struggles, who are committed and courageous, and who
love the Lord. He has worked miracles in their marriages, and they are now
pointing the way for others. These friends are our Aaron and Hur. They have
come alongside us and are holding up our arms when we grow weary. I beseech
you, find others to hold up your arms when you cannot hold them up yourselves.
Search for community and join in!
you have a praise to share about the work God has done in your relationship.
Please share them with me! I want to pray for you and celebrate with you.
Wendy is a homeschooling mama to five who loves to encourage
others along the homeschooling journey. She also considers herself a ‘foodie’
and is always ready to try a new recipe in the kitchen. You will find Wendy
writing about homeschooling, faith, family, food, and books over on her blog, Striving to Follow Him. Wendy is also
founder of Your One Tree, a contributor blog
dedicated to encouraging others to die to self daily, as well as contributing
monthly over at Managing Your
Blessings. Be sure to visit and connect with Wendy on Facebook and Twitter, too!
Thank you, Wendy, for encouraging us to spend quality time on our marriages as moms. It is an important part of our work as women.
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