Trying to Fix My Kids

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{This week: Post by Lisa}

I feel like I keep trying to fix my kids. Their behavior has been challenging me. I blame myself when they act out. Trying to fix my kids makes me feel helpless. I do not have all the answers.

It breaks my heart as a caring mom to see my children struggling. It’s in my nature as a mom to keep trying to fix my kids.

I hug them when they are sad, wipe the blood off of their scraped knees, and catch them when they start to fall from the climbing wall. It feels good when I can ease the pain with my comforting words or helping hands.

My stomach aches and my heart breaks when trying to fix my kids I can’t fix the brokenness in them.

Feeling Like a Failure

I worry and get frustrated when everything I try to do to help my child doesn’t work. There are even moments that I might find myself angry because I can’t control an out of control situation.

We moms may seek solutions from other parents, counselors, teachers, doctors, and pastors when everything we try fails. Their advice helps temporarily and we may learn to cope. But deep down inside we can see that the issue isn’t fixed.

I used to let this drag me down into a pit of depression and out of anxiousness I would have a negative reaction.

Until I let God comfort me.

God Uses All for His Purposes

He reminded me that we all have a need in our souls that only He can fill and care for. In other words, I can’t take the place of God. But God will give me insight into my child’s battle and give me directions on how to respond. This realization has been life changing. Trying to fix my kids will not be successful without God’s guidance.

God is my help. He is showing me what my kids need. It’s comforting to know that God is taking care of the issues.

When a hard day with the kids makes us want to pull our hair out, we can go to a quiet place and wait for God’s guidance. He comes in our weakest moments and gives us strength to rise up above our troubles.

Dear Moms, let’s give God our worries and trust that in His timing He will fix what is broken. We don’t always have to be the fixer upper. Let’s rest my friends while God does the rest.

But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired. Isaiah 40:31(AMPC)

I write to encourage and inspire. Life is messy and sometimes makes no sense. I don’t have all the answers or claim to have it all together. I’m learning that I don’t have to be perfect. I’m loved by God just because, and so are you. My posts are meant to help you hang in there when you feel like giving up. Join us at Me Too Moments for Moms to connect with other moms seeking faith and joy in this season of life.

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