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{This week: Post by Lauren}
I love being a stay at home mom. It was my dream as a child to grow up, have a family and stay at home with my kids. I feel so blessed to be able to this and enjoy spending quality time with my kids.
On the other hand, it’s exhausting!
Being a mom, whether you stay at home or not, is tiring and it takes a lot of energy. I’ve talked to so many SAHMs who struggle to find me-time and often feel like it’s always about someone else. I’m done feeling guilty for taking me-time.
If we know taking time for ourselves is so important then why don’t we do it? I often find myself making excuses for why I shouldn’t have alone time. Here are a few of them:
- The kids need me.
- I can’t miss out on this. This is important and I shouldn’t leave my family to be selfish.
- Who will watch the kids? Wasn’t this the point of me staying home?
- What if something happens? What if I miss something?
Do you struggle to find me-time? What is holding you back? Take a few minutes to think about this. Underneath all of the reasoning and excuses, what is the bottom line?
For me, I *used* to feel guilty because I decided to be a stay at home mom. It seemed selfish to want a break and find a babysitter so I could be kid free for a few hours. I thought I didn’t deserve it. This is what I signed up for, right?
I’ve decided I had enough of these excuses and I’m trying to make me-time a priority. We all need a break. When you take some time to refresh yourself, you come back a better mommy. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.
Being a stay at home mom can be isolating, a place where we crave connection with other adults. But it can also be a beautiful experience where we build up the next generation and create a precious bond with our children.
It’s not easy to find a balance, but I want to encourage you today.
If you struggle to find me-time, find out why. Get to the bottom of it and make a plan to schedule in more time for yourself this week!
Need some me-time ideas?
Big list of me-time ideas for moms.
Avoiding obsession with me-time.
When you can’t fit in me-time.
Lauren has a background in school psychology and recently became a stay at home mom. She loves empowering women to parent joyful, healthy, Godly children. Come find support in motherhood, faith, healthy living, relationships and more as Lauren journeys through life as a daughter, wife and mother at her blog, Heart of Deborah. Follow her on Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, and Twitter.
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Enjoy your time at home!
Natasha says
April 26, 2017 at 12:56 pmThis is such a great piece. I totally agree, me- time is a very essential practice that should be adapted by stay at home mum. Once in a while It’s good to prioritize yourself and not feel guilty about it.
Jaimi says
April 30, 2017 at 10:55 pmSo true!