I don’t write this blog because I think my life is perfect, or I am the perfect wife, or perfect mother. I write because despite all of my imperfections, I am happy, and will make every effort
to be happy every day.
I don’t always like doing what I do each day:
Who wants to drag a screaming, kicking almost-4-year old out of Library story time?
Who wants to be awake for 2-4 hours almost every night thanks to a still-waking-up-to-nurse 11 month old?
Those are not two facts I would put on a banner advertising the benefits of being a stay-at-home-mom!
(Yes, dear, it’s fabulous! You get to never rest, give all you have to everyone else, and still try to look good doing it all!)
There are many women who try hard to be that iconic 1950s mom from the vintage ads: Perfectly coiffed, dressed to the nines, and a smiling baby in her arms.
Some days I get there.
Some days I have a gourmet dinner ready to be plated the second my husband walks in the door (lucky him), and the children listen to their Bible songs contentedly while I scrub the house to ‘perfectly clean’ with a smile on my face.
Real life as stay-at-home mom means it all lasts five minutes before there is more poop to clean and screaming and crying to hear.
We need to have high expectations for ourselves, but not so high that we never achieve them.
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Your post REALLY spoke to me. Just having my 4th baby (10 days ago); I began right away putting pressure on myself to keep up with everyone else. But, being at home right now (not blogging, not even homeschooling); just being is what's most important in this life-stage. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
First off, congratulations on the baby! Wow! You are a champ. I definitely understand the tendency to compare what I do with my children, or what I cook for dinner, or how often I get out of the house in a week, with my friends, and other moms. The reality is, though, that no one really cares how much we get done in a day except ourselves, God and our household. As long as we are prioritizing them first, then we are successful. YOU are so right that just soaking in our time with our children is enough when they are young. I pray for you to get rest!