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{This week: Post by Heather}
Summer is by far one of my favorite times of the year.
The sun stays out longer, there is more flexibility in our schedule, and I can actually drink my coffee. And by drink my coffee, I mean I don’t have to chug the scalding liquid on my way out the door.
I start anticipating the summer months right after Spring Break has come and gone. I can’t help it, by this time I’m just over the monotonous nature of the school year. I want my freedom as much, if not more, than my kids.
However just because I love the summer months with the kids doesn’t mean it doesn’t come with it’s own unique struggles.
For example, as I write this post my kids are arguing with each other over their Magna Tiles. They are arguing after my youngest begged her sister to play with her. They are huffing and puffing at each other, and I’ve already had to go out and discipline them no less than 4 times.
So there’s that.
Or perhaps one of the biggest struggles during the summer is finding the delicate balance between doing fun activities and entertaining your kids and also giving them their much needed downtime. Albeit giving them downtime and freedom also comes with a lot of, “I’m bored,” and, “There’s nothing to do.”
It’s the best of times and the worst of times.
Since I know how tricky it can be to navigate through the summer months I’ve come up with 5 things you need to do with your kids this summer. We’ve done a few of them previously and others we’re trying out for the first time this summer.
Things You Need to do With Your Kids This Summer
Create a Family Summer Bucket List
We started doing this three years ago and it is awesome. We bought a giant posterboard and fun markers and pens. Then we picked a night everyone was home to sit around the kitchen table and discuss what each member of the family wanted to do individually during the summer and also what we wanted to do together as a family.
We hung it up in the kitchen so it was a daily reminder of the things we wanted to do. I tend to like to hide things away by organizing them, but keeping it out in the open is key to it’s success. This also helped with the “I’m bored” sentiments. I would simply look at the list and see if there was something on there we could do or something that my kids could do on their own.
It was not only fun to create the list and then do things from it, but it was fun to see just how many things we were able to check off and do as a family. I know sometimes we get so busy that we didn’t even realize just how many things we had checked off during the summer.
Consciously Have a Laid Back Summer
This year I’ve made a huge effort to have a laid back summer with my kids. In the past, I’ve worked too much or we’ve over scheduled activities which just brought stress. Stress that we didn’t need. So this year I’ve advocated for taking strides to have a summer that has more freedom, less rules and more fun.
This year I’m concentrating on incorporating more fun activities and less things we don’t want to do. Going to the beach and simply enjoying being there without worrying about to-do lists or the other million things I have to do. Because the truth is they will still be there waiting for me.
For me having a laid back summer is simply an opportunity to live a simpler and more conscious life.
Find Free or Cheap Activities
Let’s face it, most of the activities during the summer months for kids and families can be quite pricey. If you want to go the amusement park, water park or even a museum the prices alone can make doing these activities few and far between.
Finding activities for kids and the family that are free or cheap is key to a successful and fun summer. I used to think it was next to impossible to find free or cheap activities locally, but the more I’ve scoured the more I’ve been able to find.
For example, in our town you can go to the Naval Air Museum with the kids completely free. There’s also a STEM learning center that does a discounted family rate for the year meaning it’s cheaper to get a membership and pay only dollars each month. Obviously this is only good if you expect to use the membership a lot.
Be on the lookout for free and cheap activities in your area. I promise they’re out there and with a little bit of searching you’ll be able to add these to your family’s summer bucket list.
Do One Thing You’ve Always Want to Do
If you do the math we only get 18 summers with our kids before they’re out of our house. That’s roughly 54 months of summer times activities, and that’s not counting when they’re teenagers and won’t want to hang out with us.
That’s why I think it’s so important to do at least one thing each summer that you’ve always wanted to do. It can be anything, big or small. It can be something as a small as camping in the backyard or having a movie marathon day. It can be something as big as a 2 week family trip going to the Grand Canyon.
Whatever your dreams make sure you do at least one thing with your kids during each summer. Summers sometimes feel like they’re dragging, but those months will be gone before you know it so you need to make sure you’re making the most of them now.
Continue Educating Them
I know it seems counterproductive to plan some time to do some educational activities especially when I’m trying to have a laid back summer. But we use the extra time together to help them continue to educate themselves.
When I was a kid I was of the school of thought that when summer came we didn’t touch a school book for three whole months. I read fiction for fun, but I never really worked on continuing to educate myself. It wasn’t until I was older that I realized it’s the perfect time to continue to learn new and exciting things.
So this is why our kids have time during the week where we continue to work on math, reading and writing. They actually like doing workbooks and learning activities a couple of times a week because it doesn’t seem like such a chore or like “school”.
Do you have any must try activities for your kids during the summer months? What are your favorite things to do with your kids?
Heather lives in Florida with her husband, two girls and two pups. She is a lover of most things in life, too many to name here without scaring you, but a few include working out, learning new recipes, Pinterest, organizing (yes, it’s true!), home decor and learning to lead a more minimal and purposeful life.
She started Just Becoming Me as a venture to better understand herself and what will lead her towards a more fulfilling life. Her motto is: “We only have one life, and I want to learn to live mine in a way that gets me excited to jump out of bed.”
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I would definitely get a bike for him to grow into. We generally buy bikes that have 20″ wheels when our children are around 6/7 years old. Taking him to the store with you to sit on a few and find the right one will be helpful too.
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