It was one of those days. Days like this are when I think I fail as a mom. At first, that is how it feels. My limit was reached by 10 AM…at a school assembly…with all 4 kids…and 3 were crying. Both babies wanted to be out of the stroller or held. My 3 year old kept asking me (every minute), “When are we going to go to the playground?” I was hearing 25% of what the PTA president was sharing. The thought, “My husband has it too easy,” flashed through my head…a few times.
I must not have taught them well enough, or set the right example.
I must have done it wrong!
I am failing at motherhood if my children are not behaving in the exact way I desire.
When I Think I Fail As a Mom: Perspective Shifts
My presence with my children is what matters.
I was there to teach through the tantrums. I was there to hold the babies.
Enjoy your time at home!
As I was reading, all I could think of is how incredibly BRAVE you were to take 3 little ones to a school assembly… YIKES! You go mom!!!
Anne, it's either brave or crazy. 🙂 It all worked out in the end, but definitely was a bit of a challenge to say the least.
Oy, I've had those days too, Jaimi. I have a mini-version of that at the end of the day when I'm alone with all three kids lol. And just a few weeks ago at back to school night, I wondered why my 4-year-old STILL can't sit and listen to the teacher (never mind that that was a rare occurrence—he's usually very good).
I think it's so important to remember their good moments. Just tonight, all three kids were eating their dinners so well—no complaints, finished it all, it was great. I told my husband, "We have to remember this moment so that when they complain about food in the future, we know it's not always like that."
Oh, Nina, that is so incredibly true! Remembering the "good moments" help so much in getting through the not so good ones. Thank you for sharing that!
Deborah Nielson says
Thank you for the perspective check! We, Moms, all have those moments — and sometimes it's not our calm voices that come out. Hang in there and thanks for the post.
I appreciate those words of wisdom, Deborah! I love your blog and your experience is so valuable.
Caroline Guthrie says
I only have one little guy, but I do sometimes if I'm doing it right. This is an awesome article to remind you what it's really all about! Thanks
Thank you, Caroline! Many moms have those moments of doubt no matter how many kiddos we have. 😉