Comments on: Am I Stealing My Child’s Innocence? https://thestay-at-home-momsurvivalguide.com/stealing-childs-innocence/ Tips, activities and encouragement for staying at home and joyfully surviving it. Thu, 09 Feb 2017 05:35:27 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Jaimi https://thestay-at-home-momsurvivalguide.com/stealing-childs-innocence/#comment-44208 Thu, 09 Feb 2017 05:35:27 +0000 https://thestay-at-home-momsurvivalguide.com/?p=5216#comment-44208 In reply to Kelsie Chitty.

I agree with you. Parents need to be proactive AND reactive. When the kids ask, answer them-honestly-at their level. That is the tricky part, though. Really knowing what your child can comprehend or misinterpret can be a bit of muddy water at times. I completely agree with you that we parents MUST be the ones to answer them even when we feel it is “too early” because if we don’t they will seek their answers from other sources that may not teach them the values we want to instill. Great, great thoughts, Kelsie!

]]> By: Kelsie Chitty https://thestay-at-home-momsurvivalguide.com/stealing-childs-innocence/#comment-43705 Sun, 05 Feb 2017 02:24:23 +0000 https://thestay-at-home-momsurvivalguide.com/?p=5216#comment-43705 My answer to the title question: yes, but that’s our job. I don’t mean that in any perverted way, but isn’t it better that we teach our own kids things rather than leave it to someone else or themselves to figure it out?
My kids are young (3, 1, and due in June) but because of my own upbringing, I’m already faced with questions I didn’t know how to handle and I see bad habits being passed on because I wasn’t really taught growing up how to be feminine. Basics only, like a two minute crash course on pads and tampons, 30 seconds on condoms, 30 secs on deoderant and makeup and shaving. After which I was told that shaving isn’t necessary and deoderant is a product of an oppressive patriarcal society, same with bras. So because my parents didn’t want to properly teach me how to be a girl/woman I learned from the school system, my hippy grandma, friends, enemies, internet, and figured some of it out myself. Heck, I’m STILL learning… from youtube, blogs, and *shudder* the inlaws.
I don’t want the same for my kids. I want to be the person to give them the important information and be an example for them of what a woman is and how to do things. I don’t think putting a standard age limit on things like this is a good idea. When our kids are ready, we will know. They will express interest or curiousity and it’s best to answer rather than lie or put it off to chance.

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