What do you hold most dear? What actions in your day do you
most hope your child/ren emulate either now or as they grow into adulthood? Since you spend every day-or close to it-with
your child, I would guess you value family to a great degree. Whether you know it or not, you teach that family is important and you probably hope your child will grow to value ‘family’ as
well. Every day your mission is caring for your family. Family is our first connection to faith.
If our parents are there for us when we need them, then we can understand how God is there for us. In a child’s limited ability to understand the unseen, as a mother, our ability to prove that our love is unfailing is so important to our children believing in something bigger than themselves-and being secure as they pursue what is in store for them in their life.
I would venture a guess that occasionally you
stray from being motivated to put everyone first and slip into wondering when
you get your time. I do it. Sometimes I wake up at 6:00 AM and don’t get
a moment free until I hit the pillow at 10:30 PM. Yes, many days (or rather nights), my only ‘me
time’ is sleep. I knew there would be
sleepless nights and busy days when I embarked on trying to have children-I
watched my mom work part time at night just so she could stay home with my
brother and me each day. She never
complained-to my knowledge-about not getting time to herself. Every day was not pretty and perfect, but she pushed through.
sleep than she did, and I am still exhausted many days; somehow she did it with
no sleep many nights…yes, awake all night taking care of babies in the hospital
(she was a nurse) and then home to take care of her two babies all day. She wanted to stay home, but the finances
didn’t allow it. Her devotion to her
family (balancing SAHM and work-at-night-mom) taught me that family comes
first. That lesson is my motivation
My family is very close-also
good motivation. Much of that credit
goes to 1) my dad being the main breadwinner and 2) my mom staying home during
the day and fitting her career in at night. I consider my brother and my
parents, as well as my husband and children, my best friends. I call them for advice before anyone else. I spent so much time with my mom, dad, and
brother when I was growing up that they know me in-and-out, through thick and
thin, my faults, my strengths, my failures and my successes. We can be brutally honest with each other. We have all cried
together, argued together, laughed and celebrated. We are COMFORTABLE together. It was not always pretty or
enjoyable, but it led us to solid relationships with each other now that my brother and I are adults. We knew our parents-and in particular our mother due to her being home during the day-were there for us and would not leave us in times of struggle. I hope
that my husband and I are creating that family environment for ourselves and
our children; I think we are on the way.
with my husband and my children. If that
means every exhausted day, and many sleepless nights I have to focus on giving
more than receiving from any of them, then I will do that. My parents did that and our family is better for it. In fact, their marriage is even stronger today probably because they focused on family and faith first.
opportunity to stay home-a gift to you and your children. Our children give us smiles and laughter, and
many more years ahead of a dynamic and growing relationship.
their diapers (I can hope), but we are and will be first in our child/ren’s minds. We are their closest connection to God on Earth. Sort of the default when we see each
other so much each day. You witness every part of your child’s every day. You are by his/her side as they make
mistakes, and learn new lessons. Much,
if not all of the time, you have been the one to teach them. Your legacy will be: She
gave all she had every day to better the life of her family.
one day your daughter or son may choose to emulate what you have
shown: value family first. I think that
is the epitome of ‘pay it forward’. Provide them with the compass of values for their life. We moms, and parents in general, are the first values compass for our children. Hopefully we are guiding them in the right direction.
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As the Mother of a Son
Enjoy your time at home!